In the past few weeks, I have encountered a lot of situations where my friends have had a hard time adjusting to life’s difficulties. Life is not fair in many ways, and sometimes we need to help each other overcome these hardships. One of my friends is having trouble with family at home. It was brought to my attention that he is depressed and not doing well in school. When I tried to contact him to find out what was wrong, he responded with a devastating answer:
“I do not belong in this life. I have reached my end. This world is better without me. I am sorry to have troubled you, but I have to let someone know before it’s time. Please, when I am gone, tell my family that I loved them, and make sure that they know that they were better without me. Life is hard, and it is getting worse for me and the people that I know. I am the thing that gets in the way of your accomplishments and joy. Thank you, Talia, for being there for me, but now I must say goodbye.”
After I read this message, I immediately responded to him, saying:
“I understand that life is hard, but happiness can be found in the darkest times, if one only remembers to turn on the light. Right now you are dealing with the frustration of life, which includes: depression, flight, and having suicidal thoughts. I want you to know that I am here for you, in every difficult situation that you may face. I will always be here for you in need and without. We must all make the choice between what is right and what is easy. You can make a right or a wrong choice, but remember that when you make the wrong choice you can never go back.”
When I said this, I knew I had done my job. As a friend, I had to be there for him. He needed to know right away that he was not alone, and that he could find comfort in me. He needed to know at that moment that he mattered, and that his choices matter. If someone ever speaks of suicide, listen and take them seriously.
“A life is more important then anything in the world.” -Unknown
If you are depressed and going through a difficult time, or if you are thinking of doing something dangerous and harmful to yourself, please talk to your family, friends, or call 911. There is also a suicide hotline that can be reached at 800-333-5580. Even if you think you don’t belong in this world, know that a place was made here, on this Earth, just for you, to live on and prosper.
“It is our choices that show who we truly are, far more than our abilities.” – Albus Dumbledore